Tuesday, December 30, 2008

CONfused

Confusion

I know not where my life is heading,
My mind is baffled by nostalgia and dreading.
I breathe death, I know I'm dying,
Not really living, barely surviving.

I see people dying to live,
Unlike them, I'm living to die.
Is there light at the break of dawn?
Or deep bleakness will spawn.

Is there any hope for me?
Who sees any?
I am attacked, besieged, defeated.
Am I cursed?

Danger around me is black,
The grave sets trap quite right.
I see nothing but dusk,
Dark as death, dim as night.

Clock ticks and days pass by,
I cannot look at my own shady eye.
I feel weak, where's my spirit?
I'm lost in this place, there's no exit.

Is there any hope for me?
Who sees any?
I am attacked, besieged, defeated.
...Yes, I am doomed.


~\\-cOn-//~

Monday, December 15, 2008

Shooed Bush

(photo courtesy of BBC)

Shooed Bush, literally. That means to shoo with a shoe.

An enraged Iraqi journalist, Al-Zaidi, who had previously been kidnapped, failed to keep his cool and threw his size 10 shoe at Bush during a prescon in his domicile. Hmm - the wrath for the damage Bush administration has caused him and his brethren.

Friday, December 12, 2008

No Ebola In RP Pig Farms

Pork lovers, you read it right. Say goodbye to pork abstinence my dear. Rejoice instead because there's no Ebola-Reston virus (earlier found in monkeys) in RP pig farms.

The strain was accidentally discovered when RP sent samples of pig blood to America to find a vaccine for another disease killing local pigs. Six of 24 samples tested positive for the strain.

Earlier today, health officials of the country announced that no cases of the controversial virus was found. The examination was narrowed to 2 pig farms in Bulacan and Pangasinan. Result: Negative for Ebola. Officials said none of the animals tested thus far had the virus.

Craving for luscious pork barbeque? Or mouth-watering pork chops? Give in to temptation. No worries.




Twilight


When you can live forever what do you live for?

That's the slogan of a blockbuster movie this year. Vampires stories could either be so-so or insipid. But I think Twilight is different. Quite intrigued about its fame, I decided to watch it myself.

Twilight. The first novel in the twilight series written by Stephenie Meyer. A story of unconditional love between a human being and a vampire. The story of trying not to fall but resistance came too weak. Then life for them became very complicated.

The movie is great. It's stimulating. That's the reason why thousands of moviegoers lined up in cinemas in Europe, America, and even here in the Philippines. Movie buffs, especially teens, will certainly be entertained by Twilight. Aside from Twilight, other sequels included in the series are New Moon, Eclipse, and Breaking Dawn. Much to see. And I will watch them all. That is certain.

Monday, December 8, 2008

Melamine Scare Wanes

With the melamine issue, China created a bang that rocked the whole world. Melamine, a nitrogen-rich chemical used in making plastics and plates, was recently found to have contaminated milk products worldwide and has been implicated in the sickening of about 300,000 babies in China and killing at least 6 infants there. The chemical was also found in a cleaning solution used on some food processing equipment.

But the scare is waning...

Last Friday, the World Health Organization said that tiny traces of the chemical are not dangerous in most foods. However, it joined America and Europe in setting a strict limit that should be implimented.

A meeting held by WHO in Ottawa, Canada, decided that while there is no good reason to have any melamine in food products at all, a maximum of 0.2 milligrams of melamine per kilogram of body weight can be tolerated per day. Now, the standard is being implemented.




Sunday, December 7, 2008

The Underdog Does The Beating

Golden Boy versus Pacman.

Majority's bet was on the Mexican-American boxing icon Oscar de la Hoya. The ravishing 35-year-old 10-time world champ was at his lightest since 2001. He has to lose weight to fight the legendary 29-year-old Philippine pride Manny Pacquiao.

Why did they choose de la Hoya over Pacquiao?

Face value? lolz. The disparity in size, most obvious in Golden Boy's four-inch height advantage. Plus the notable boxing record.

Despite the overwhelming bet in favor of de la Hoya, Manny Pacquiao, the underdog, wins. He just handed De la Hoya one of the worst defeats of his career. Pacman peppered Golden Boy with punches from round 1 until the technical knockout at round 9.

Pacquiao prolonged the beating for 8 rounds. His speed and precision were too much for De la Hoya. The latter's left eye was swollen. He can barely produce hard punches. Starting round 7, he was just covering his face and torso for another swift attack. Pacquiao's beating made him accept defeat by just stopping the fight. He surely knows KO is far humiliating than TKO.

In an interview right after the fight, Pacquiao said:

"That's what we were working on every day in the gym - speed. Speed was going to be the key to this fight. I'm not surprised by the result, because I prepared well to control the fight from the beginning. I'm happy that I could give this victory to my country."

De la Hoya was full of praise for his opponent:

"Manny Pacquiao is a great fighter. He deserves all the credit. He fought a great fight. He was the better man. My heart still wants to fight that's for sure. But when your physical doesn't respond, what can you do?"

I love it when the underdog wins. I really do.

Lesson: Never underestimate people.





Monday, December 1, 2008

Step Up The Fight Against HIV

(photos from AP, nextnature and kris.mkrevo)


Dec. 1 is World's AIDS day. A time to wear that Red Ribbon, the global symbol for solidarity with HIV-positive people and those living with AIDS. You see, more and more people are infected with HIV each day and we just can't sit on our couch, stare blankly at the wall, and wait for our dear ones to be infected too. We have to do something. We have to make people realize the value of healthy and responsible sexuality.

FAST FACTS

Definition: AIDS and HIV are not the same thing. HIV (human immunodeficiency virus) attacks the body's immune system. Someone is said to have AIDS if their immune systems are badly damaged by the HIV virus, or if they develop serious infections connected with HIV. Generally, people don't die from AIDS itself, but from the other diseases that AIDS leaves them susceptible to.

People living with HIV:
33 million people living with HIV worldwide
30.8 million adults
15.5 million women
2.0 million children under 15

New HIV cases in 2007:
2.7 million total new cases
2.3 million adults
370,000 children under 15

HIV-related deaths in 2007:
2.0 million total deaths

(All figures from UNAIDS and World AIDS Day Org.)

Sexual behaviors that can transmit HIV:
Oral sex
Vaginal sex
Anal sex

Other ways that HIV can be transmitted:
Blood transfusions
Sharing needles when shooting drugs
Home tattooing and body piercing
Accidental needle sticks
Childbirth
Breastfeeding

Read. Learn. Interact. Help. We can step up the fight against HIV.








Saturday, November 29, 2008

It's Now Or...

It's now or...





NOW!




Did I give myself enough choices? No, because I don't want to.

This is my plan. And there's no room for reroute this time (remember, I took a detour in the second quarter). Although some best laid plans don't turn out as such, I want this simple plan to take its course. I have to put a halt to working. I have to end my 8th job (freelance excluded). Yes, this is my 8th job and I'm looking forward to being a free-spiritted bum once again. (wink)

Mind you, this is an easy decision to make. This is my first formal resignation and I feel that I won't regret this even a bit. No biggie.




Thursday, November 27, 2008

Mumbai Mayhem

(photo courtesy of Economist)


MSNBC reports:

MUMBAI, India - They showed up, as they do every night: businessmen for meetings in the elegant restaurant that overlooks the harbor, politicians for cocktails in a bar with velvet seats and wood and marble floors, friends for a steak dinner by the pool.

But then the shooting started.

Explosions followed in and around the Taj Mahal Palace and Tower — a Mumbai landmark with sweeping staircases, onyx columns and high alabaster ceilings, known as the playground of the city's elite since it opened in 1903.

At least 119 people were killed when the teams of gunmen stormed the Taj and another hotel, a popular restaurant, hospitals, a Jewish center, a crowded train station and at least five other sites. A group of suspected Muslim militants claimed responsibility.

At the Taj, anyone who could ran for cover.


While reading the news, I recalled the September 11 attack. They have common denominator - pointing to terrorists as perpetrators.

At first, I thought the Twin Tower bombing was just a scene in an action flick. It was fabulous. It appeared very real. But the moment I started to recognize the anchor's voice, I realized it was really real. Part of the globe was experiencing bloodshed. Innocent lives were at stake.

A greater fraction of the world was astonished. Who could envision a fierce attack on the most powerful nation?

Here comes Mumbai mayhem - multitude was killed. And terrorists are once again under close scrutiny. The coordinated attacks in Mumbai have so far left 119 people dead. And it's all because of their principle. Reasonable or not, fair or foul, you decide.

The Holy Scripture says "Thou shalt not kill." But why are they killing to achieve their so-called biblical end? Go figure.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

SHELDONism

Sheldonism.

What's with the coinage?
Sheldonism is a strong belief that Sidney Sheldon novels are riveting, captivating and a must-read. (*wink)
Sheldon was an Academy Award-winning Broadway playwright, Hollywood TV and movie screenwriter, and a best-selling novelist. At age 89, he died from complications arising from pneumonia.

He's really good. And I'm happy to know that Sheldonism is everywhere. My best buddy, some of my classmates back in high school and college, as well as my colleagues share the same fetish too.

I've kept some Sheldonism mementos but I don't have them now. Blame it to a friend suffering from selective amnesia. You know, always forgetting what it is to be returned.

Good thing a Sheldonist is nice enough to send me pdf files. Thanks Raymond.

What makes a good prolific novelist?

Sheldon confessed:
"I try to write my books so the reader can't put them down. I try to construct them so when the reader gets to the end of a chapter, he or she has to read just one more chapter. It's the technique of the old Saturday afternoon serial: leave the guy hanging on the edge of the cliff at the end of the chapter."
His best-selling novels include:


Of the 18 bestsellers, Ive read the 16. Oh yeah, I'm not a Sheldon fanatic. Not much.

Right now, I'm dying to read The Naked Face, his first novel which make him grab an Edgar Allan Poe Award. That's his only novel with a man as the lead character (I've been looking for a copy but I can't find one).

Hail the master storyteller. A toast to Sheldon. A toast to women empowering writing. He's one helluva writer - really!

Right now, I'm completing my novel collection authored by Sandra Brown, Danielle Steel and John Grisham. But I love Sheldon's work best. I'm also thankful to Lala bear for giving me a copy of Agatha Christie's "Hercule Poirot's Christmas." I love the twist.



Sunday, November 23, 2008

I Am Pro Life

Silent Cry.

T'was the title of a documentary about abortion. It was shown to us when we were in high school. The purpose: To instill in our mind that abortion is no less than killing. Worse, killing an innocent life.

Life begins at fecundation (the meeting of sperm and egg cell). Once there's fertilization, there's life. More often than not, even before the mother knew she's pregnant, there's already life inside her womb.

The documentary showed the abortion process - uncut. It was horrible. It was gross. Using ultrasonography, I saw how the fetus slowly struggled to stay away from the huge forcep which bit by bit mutilated him. The movements were apparent. The fetus was actually avoiding the fatal intrusion... But to no avail. He was weak and still dependent on her mother. His legs were pulled. Then his hands. The forcep twisted his head. Then the midbody. Finally, the fragments were collected using a hose (which appears more like a vacuum or a device that uses suction). It was brutal.

I pity the babies. Their silent cry were left unheeded even by the very person expected to care for them the most.

T'was in 1997. Today's abortion procedure is far easier. But still butchery.

What pushed me to write this entry

A conversation with a friend.

She's 19. She's pregnant. But she told me she doesn't want to have a baby just yet so she's planning to have an abortion. She asked me about the medicine, the process. But I just can't spill the beans. To do so is to impliedly allow her to kill the baby.

I told her not to abort the baby because he/she has no bearing whatsoever on her personal problems. The baby has no fault. Just the result of her sexual activities. Activities she consented and enjoyed. Thus, she must be responsible enough to face the consequences of her actions. And never undermine respect for life.

What had happened

That conversation wasn't my first about abortion. There were several cases before that. But the most striking was with a new found friend...

Friendship came effortlessly. We shared each other's stories. We shared each other's lives. And we eventually became associated with each other.

In one of our serious talks, she divulged her abortion. She said it was very frightening, excruciating. She bled right out. And her boyfriend was trying to staunch the bleeding all night. There were just the two of them performing the procedure. She was copiously perspiring. Cold sweat dropped. She was shaking. And hemorrhaging continued. She thought she was dying.

Though she survived the abortion process, she is constantly bothered by the plight. She said that was her greatest mistake, greatest crime. Up to now, she feels the pangs of guilt wounding her conscience. She felt she has not forgiven herself for doing such disgraceful act to cover her shame. She felt God has not fogiven her yet. She's still restless...

Friday, November 21, 2008

Hottest Vixen

Clear the runway and make way for the world's sexiest woman...

Just when you thought it was Scarlett Johansson, you're wrong. It's Karolina Kurkova. The sultry lingerie model has been voted the world's sexiest woman by E! entertainment television. She's hhhoottt. Why don't you wipe any iota of doubt, she's worth the title anyway.

But she's not the only vixen flaunting shapely figure capable of tempting every Adam. Think Malena. Think Monica Belluci. In her prime, Monica's absolutely voluptuous! I heard stories about her. On- and off-screen. But the best story was Malena. And I won't tell you it was Jerjer who narrated it to me. No I won't.

And oh, before I forget, have you seen the Transformers? No, not Bumble Bee. She's flamboyant. But not sexy. I'm sure your eyes were rather glued to Megan Fox. Judge her. She's one palatable chick!

Slurp.





Thursday, November 20, 2008

Pygmy Tarsier Spotted In Sulawesi Island

At a distance, you'll probably think it's a rare monkey. But take a much closer look...Having a tail like a rodent and reddish brown eyes like those of an overdosed owl, there's no mistaking it, the furry creature is a tarsier. Not the ones we see in Bohol. Make them smaller and you'll get a pygmy tarsier. So tiny it can freely slither into your clasped hands. Yes, it's a pygmy tarsier - a species which is said to be extinct. But you see, it was recently spotted in Sulawesi Island, Indonesia!

I'm not so into having grotesque primates beside me but I am pleased to know they're still around for the world to see. And it would be much pleasing if my grandchildren's children would get to see them too, in the flesh, not in the old pages of history books.

[source: sciam.com]

Monday, November 17, 2008

Inside the Mind of a Psychopath



Inside My Mind

Alone in that nook is me.
See the tear fallin' down my eye,
It's a lie.
Tryin' to deceive you,
Tryin' to suck you in.
I'm numb. I can't feel.
I don't feel pain. I don't feel you.
Stare at me.
I'm destroying my life, suffocating my soul,
And making your life miserable.
Or perhaps ending it.
Do you love what you see?

~\\-cOn-//~


The free verse could be the thoughts inside the mind of a psychopath.

Or maybe different.

What molds the father's tendency or aberrant sexual behavior to rape his own child? What drives psychopaths to do bestial or deleterious acts?

Slashing throats, mutilating bodies, cutting testicles, burning cadavers, multiple rape, multiple murder...What made them cold-blooded psychopaths? Quite intrigued by how they think and feel, I want to sneak a glimpse into their mind.

"Actus reus non facit reum nisi mens sit rea." A Latin maxim which means that an act does not make a person guilty of his crime unless his mind be also guilty.

When asked what made them do such repulsive acts, they would often say "I hear inner voices telling me to." So it all starts in the mind. And their mind could either be their saving grace or their worst waterloo. Whether it's the cause or the effect, thing is, what's inside their mind matters.

What's inside your mind?

Thursday, November 13, 2008

The Big Deal About Philandering


Philandering may seem ordinary to some. But mind you, philandering is a serious issue. Call me an unbending traditionalist. I don't care. But philandering is big deal for me.

Today, I've penned a termination notice for a philandering instructor. The notice reads:

A teacher serves as a role model for his students. He must not bring the teaching profession into public disrespect by having sexual relations with his student. Knowing for a fact that he is already married and is a teacher to the offended party, he should have not pursued his student to result in sexual congress. For his failure to live up to the exacting moral standards demanded by his profession, we have decided to give this second notice to formally end his employment today.

As the notice was read to him, I don't know what to feel . Is it triumph for serving justice? Is it rage for the disgrace he has given his students? Or is it pity for making him lose his only source of income? Not only did he lose his job, he might also lose his family's trust. What I know is I have to give a deep sigh to release the heavy feeling inside my chest. Justice must prevail, nonetheless. The verdict has to be served.

These past few months I'm going out with my friend who happen to have philandering bosses (in their early 40's). They're nice. They're generous. They're married. And philandering...(whew!)

"What's wrong with loving?," they asked in one of our jamming nights where we eat, go places, play billiards, and experiment on drinks.

"There's none," I replied.

So they continued: "Therefore, there's nothing wrong with loving and having relationship with lots of women," they quipped.

"Know what, there's nothing wrong with loving. It becomes wrong when we do overt acts that are wrong," I retorted. "Love is a feeling. And we can't control it. But we can control the acts that go with it. We have a strong sense of what's right and what's not so why would we go for the wrong acts? Sometimes we mistake love for infatuation or even lust."

"But we are just loving," one insisted.

"Do you think that's love?," I asked back. "You are putting the other person to shame and open to cruel whipping of the law. She might be charged with adultery. For all you know, you are making her life miserable. And you are calling it love?"

"Do you want your kids to experience that love you're talking about?," I continued. "Sure you don't because you love them. Now, that's real love. You think first of their good before you think of selfish greed. Because love is never selfish. The love that you know is selfish. It's not even love. They are oxymoron."

I added: "You think if your wife philander you would be happy to say hey, my wife is philandering. So cool, dude!"

They were silent for some time. And the moment they regained their sense of expression they said, "We wish that you'd fall for a married man."

Well, that's something to look forward to. (laughs)

In the future, if I found out that my husband is philandering, I don't know what I'm capable of doing. I think it will scare the hell out of me. It will unravel the wrath he never had a chance to know. (laughs)

It is worth reiterating that there is no dichotomy of morality.

Get it mr. chauvinist pig? lolz.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Lying Fool

Lying Fool

Nothing you say is true,
You made it all up yourself.
You treasure falsehood more than truth,
You destroy people with your words.

Your tongue cuts like a sharp razor,
You etch deep wounds at my back.
Your words are glazed with poison,
You spread dreaded, deadly lies.

Your cowardly slander will soon end,
False accusations will come to a bend.
Enough of your persecution,
I will listen no more.

Your lies will hunt you down,
Your words will fail.
I try to believe you,
But not this time.


~\\-cOn-//~

Sunday, November 9, 2008

LOVE: The Truth Behind The Lies

vs.

People lie, a lot. White lies or not, little or big - still fibbing, right? I lie. And you lie too. But what matters is the gravity of every lie. What's the truth behind the lies?

Studies say...

True lie #1: The most serious lies are told by (and to) the people we care about most

True lie #2:When it comes to little lies, though, our romantic partners see more of our true selves

True lie #3: The more attractive you are, the more people will lie to you

True lie #4: Romantic partners are worse than strangers at detecting each other’s fibs

True lie #5: When asked to ’fess up to their most serious lie, affairs are by far the most common


True lie #6: If you admit to a lie, it might not save a relationship
Ever heard someone say “If only he/she had told me the truth, I could have forgiven him/her”? Not so.

True lie #7: Think liars don’t care about other people? Often, just the opposite is the case

True lie #8: “I did it for you” —that’s what people claim when they tell lies to their romantic partners

True lie #9: Even after lying to their romantic partners, liars claim that they are not bad people

I do lie. But not that grave. Faced with a situation of uttering a lie or not, I just change the topic or hush. Either way, it do me a lot of good.

As much as possible I try to avoid lying. I value relationships the same way I value honesty. Lying is lying. Fibs are fibs. And as we know, telling lies spoils trust big time.

[excerpt from MSN]







Thursday, November 6, 2008

Let's Make Love

Don't get me wrong. No, not that thing in your mind. And I dare stress my point - I'm not horny.

Okay, okay, just a bit.

Just kidding.

This is about a captivating song with same title as this post. Melody's fantastic, lyrics superb. Add in a riveting video. What could be lacking? NONE.


Let's Make Love by Faith Hill & Tim McGraw

Monochromatic theme flaunting a romantic setting, adorable couple with stares full of love, with hands full of smooth caress, and a perfect song to make it just the way I want it. So sweet. So loveful.

Amazing.

Given the fact that I've listened to the song several times already, it still sounds great. This song never fails to take me. Its never waning charm never fails to lure me.

Just listen. And fall...

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

My Heart Says...

The heart. Sheesh. Among other body parts, the heart is the most difficult to understand. So here I am trying to figure out what it says. Thanks to Tickle and my "so into personality test" mood.

Heart or head.What dominates? My personality test says I'm a Heart-Strong Idealist.

And the right man for me is the Renaissance Man. Who is he?

What turns me on? His Romantic Gesture.

And my strongest suit is Expression.

*click image to make it larger

I took those quizzes two years ago and they still hold water up to now. Pretty consistent huh.







Monday, November 3, 2008

PhotoFunia

When you pretend there's nothing else to be done...




LOAF.

lolz.









Spell narcism. Spell vanity. No, this is hedonism. (laughs)

*courtesy of PhotoFunia

What Personality Do I Own?

Ms. Karin sat next to me today and she asked me some sites that offer personality tests (she's a psychology teacher by the way). The first website that came to my mind was Tickle. When I opened the site, I saw the tests I've taken two years ago. A couple of years back, I was so engrossed in knowing my self a little deeper...

Here are some of the results:

My color is Black. What does it mean?

My identity is Extraversion Medium. Balanced lifestyle - that's my forte you know. (Chos!)

I am also a Word Warrior. All words. Just words. (giggles)

Right or Left? I'm a right-brained gal. What does that supposed to mean?

My buried secret? My Career. I did not see it coming. But yes, my test result said it's my career.

* click image to make it larger

Do I need a personality makeover? How about reinventing myself?

Did I hear you say TOTAL OVERHAUL? Duh! lolz.

[via: Tickle.com]







Thursday, October 30, 2008

Ibalong Festival '08

Feisty. Festive. Fun.

Those are the prevailing moods for this day. It isn't just me who felt mixed moods but all those who have witnessed this year's Ibalong festival. Not even the wrath of the raging raindrops could stop the gaiety.

Monday, October 27, 2008

Don't Wanna Be A Manpleaser

Who do you please?

When the world bespeaks of vileness and depravity, are you going to rejoice where evil lurks? When the law of the land is just as wrong to the ignorant as to the enlightened, will you uphold the divine law? Most of the time, what the world wants is the exact opposite of what God wants. But we are given the freedom to choose. Every minute of every day, we have a choice.

With your choices, who do you often please?

Godpleaser
by Petra

So many voices telling me which way to go
So many choices come from those who think they know
There's a way that seems right to a man, but it only brings him death
I wanna go the way that leads to life till I draw my dying breath

Don't wanna be a manpleaser
I wanna be a Godpleaser
I just wanna have the wisdom to discern the two apart

Don't wanna be a manpleaser
I wanna be a Godpleaser
I just wanna do the things that please the Father's heart

Some make a sacrifice and never let it show
Some make a point of letting everybody know
Some will live their lives as unto men, and they have their reward
I just wanna do everything I do with all my heart unto the Lord
I just want my life to glorify His Son

To make my Father proud that I'm His child before I'm done
No need to pat me on the back or stop to shake my hand
I just want to hear my Father say, "well done", "well done"
I just want to hear my Father say, "well done"






Saturday, October 25, 2008

Love Truths

What makes a relationship tick and tank? What makes a bond float or sink? When should you bottle up feelings? When should you put an indelible dead end? Here's an article worth pondering...

1. Spending time apart strengthens your bond.

2. Your inkling that something is wrong in the relationship is probably right. By nature of being a woman, you have a keen intuition, so you'll feel any kind of distancing on a visceral level pretty quickly.

"When a guy wants to break up, he'll often start to create space," says Oikle. In other words, he'll stop calling quite as much, it will take him a bit longer to return your texts or emails, and he'll sometimes be "too busy" to hang out. "For the record, if a guy is into you, he'll never be too busy," says Paul Coleman, PsyD, author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Intimacy."

3. If a man has a history of cheating on his girlfriends, he'll probably cheat on you too. Sometimes a guy cheats on his partner because there is an emotional or physical void in the relationship. But more often than not, philandering is indicative of something wrong with him. According to Jay Carter, PsyD, author of "Nasty Men,"

4. He wants to think he's taking care of you. Despite the fact that many women are outpacing men on the college level and in the workplace, "lots of guys still derive their feelings of masculinity and self-worth by being of value to the person they love," says Allen Berger, PhD, author of "Love Secrets Revealed." "And they feel most valuable when they're doing things for that person."

5. If a guy tells you that he's not ready for a relationship, take his word for it. Believe it or not, men really hate to disappoint women. So if he's "gotten up the guts to actually cross the threshold and tell you that he's not ready for a relationship, he means business," says Oikle.

6. Passion can grow as a relationship progresses. People used to think settling down meant saying goodbye to romance and passion. But research has found that young married couples are more satisfied in the romance department than their single counterparts are. Familiarity definitely has its perks.

7. You won't regret breaking up with a guy you're feeling unsure about. Nowadays, women may be impulsive about dating guys but not dumping them. "In fact, a lot of single women will try really hard to fit a square peg into a round hole because they want the relationship to work so bad," explains Magids. "It's only after a tremendous amount of thought and effort that they finally give up on it." So if you sense you're with the wrong person, don't fret so much about walking away to find a better mate.

8. You will always be the one to initiate a relationship talk. Unlike women, who are conditioned to take the pulse of a relationship from time to time, men don't contemplate the state of your union until something's wrong. And even then, they want to work it out in their mind, whereas women want to talk it out.

Monday, October 20, 2008

When Reality Bites, Bite Back

No-no-no. This isn't about vengeance. I'm not implying a gusto in the old "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" rule.

So what's the point?

This one is about a nonsensical (though sweet) ad I scribbled in a copywriting activity. So without further ado, I give you my crappy ad... =)

DULCE VITA
When reality bites, bite back

Chocoholics behold! Sweet news is dark chocolate has gone guilt-free. Dropping carbohydrates and peaking phytochemicals and anti-oxidants, Dulce Vita won’t make you fat nor pathetic.

Now, reality won’t stop you from a bite a day. So dream yourself some appetite…minus the guilt.

Why chocolate?

First, because I love it (not much now because of these annoying braces). Second, I love sharing bars with my brothers, friends and neighborhood kids. Most importantly, I'm addicted to caffeine. I love aromatic coffee (it's one of the few things I can't get enough of). I love sparkling soda (and I don't care if my belly gets more and more protruding each day).

Goodness, I love caffeine! I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it.

Now you know exactly how much I love it. (wink)







Monday, October 13, 2008

Another Win For Alonso


Another reason to smile. Another reason to celebrate. Oh yeah, after winning Singapore GP, Alonso has yet another victory to celebrate. Pour the bubbly champagne. A toast is just perfect. Cheers!

The headline of F1 official website reads:

Major chinks appeared in the armour of the leading title contenders at Fuji. As Lewis Hamilton and Felipe Massa lost their cool, it was left to a former two-time champion to show the young pretenders how it should be done. Avoiding the first-corner melee, Fernando Alonso made the most of his second-row grid slot, excellent strategy and a superbly balanced car to give Renault an unlikely second successive win, making the team firm favourites for fourth in the constructors’ championship…

I just love his courage. I just love his 'no-giving-up' attitude. I just love how he drives....aficionados crazy. I know he won't be a champ this season. But next season is pretty much promising.

With a growl, grab your title back. Grrr! =)

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Flummery Of The Flesh


Flummery of the flesh. Strong sexual desire. Craving for sex. Lust for lust.

Whatever you call it, no matter how you couch it in different words, it's still SEX - no less. So when does sex goes right? When does it goes wrong?

Sex creates heavenly heights. It awakens earthly and animalistic desires. Yes, people are rational animals so craving for sex is just but natural. But don't forget the word rational to describe the animal in all of us. We don't have sex just because we want it. We use our psyche instead to know if it's right to do it right there and then.

We may have contrasting point of views as regards sex but let us not forget the drawbacks. Sex with the wrong person or with the wrong reason is the culprit that broke countless families. It is the villain that put to jail not-so-evil persons because of lewdness. Truth is, when flummery of the flesh strikes, it can unmake you. Sexual infidelities can turn sweet love into bitter hatred, solid trust into impenetrable distrust.

While you are searching for the 'G-spot,' ask this:

After the flame dies down, after the steam clears, what happens next?






Friday, October 10, 2008

How Do You Know She's The One?

I have read this article about how a man decides that his girl is the right person to spend his whole life with. What made them say "I do" ?

For me the best answer was...

Stand by your man

"Three years ago, to my surprise and dismay, I was abruptly fired from my job. It couldn't have come at a worse time: I had just bought a home and was worried about paying the mortgage. When I told my girlfriend, she told me not to worry and that 'we' would get through this together. It was at that moment that I knew I would never find anyone better. She could have left, knowing it would be hard for me to get another job, but she stayed, and I knew we had what it takes to make a marriage work." -- Chris Watts, 28, Windsor, CT.

I do believe in the sanctity of marriage. But the saddening fact is - most people don't.

My friends ask me why at 26, I don't think of settling down. Well, marrying is easy. But staying in the marriage is another story. I've seen strong people fell into temptation. I've heard confessions about infidelity. I've seen lovers fall apart. I've seen remorse in their eyes. I sensed regrets. Sigh. It's so scary to know you married the wrong person.

Marriage is a sacred vow. It's a bond of two souls. You take your spouse to have and to hold from that day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do you part. How many couples you know stand by this vow? Only few. I suppose.

At the back of my head, questions are fleeting. Come bumpy rides, trials and pandemonium. Will he stay by my side to fight hand in hand? What if I was struck by a dreadful disease, will he take care of me? Can we remain faithful to each other? Can we make it through thick and thin?

If those questions are thrown back to me, I'd answer in the affirmative. I'll stay with him no matter what happens. Love is the reason why I'll marry. It is also the very reason why I'll stay. But what if he forgets about the vow? That spells trouble.

Honestly, I'm happy to see couples growing old together and keeping the love as they age. I hope I can do the same. But I can't do it alone. I need this one person. One true person to share everything with - the ups, the downs, and the usual.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Top 7 Signs of Self-Sabotaging Behaviors

Reality check: Are you destroying yourself?

To help you ascertain, here's an article written by Dr. Robert Anthony...

Having trouble reaching all your goals? Are you going for what you want, but feeling like something is road-blocking the way? Are you finding yourself "not" doing some of the things you know you should be doing?

You may be a victim of sabotage---self-sabotage. How do you know, and what can you do about it? Read on and see.
1. Focusing on what is not working, not right or missing from your life.

Problem: Notice how often you speak about and think about what is not working, not right, or missing from your life. This only attracts more of the things you don’t want.

Action: Ask yourself a new question: "What's going right?" or "What IS working?" Begin to notice all the things, no matter how small, that are working well. Keep an evidence journal and each day write down everything, I do mean everything, that is working and you will attract more of what is working!
2. Being stuck in fear:

Problem: Do you worry a lot about the future and what is going to happen or might happen? Are you thinking about your fears so much that you are paralyzed and take no action because of fear of what might occur?

Action: It is time to put your focus on the present. We can't control or predict the future or other people's behaviors. All we can control is our own, right here, right now.

Ask yourself the question "What is the worst thing that could happen?" Then, let go and know that rarely do the scenarios we create in our heads occur. Take a moment to put things into perspective by writing down the things you can not change, the things you want change, and accept that the Universe, God, Spirit, whatever you call it will take of the rest. It always does!

3. Feeling you have no value.

Problem: Do you forget all your accomplishments and lack pride in who you are and what you have accomplished? If you obsess about the past or your lack of success or lack of achievement, then you'll be stuck in noticing how much you lack as a person. If you often criticize yourself or can't accept compliments, it’s a definite sign that you have fallen into this trap.

Action: You can choose to notice what you do that is good and the things you can be proud of, no matter how small they may seem. Each day keep a log of what you are grateful for about YOU. When you hear your mind chattering about what you haven't done right or well, turn down the volume and turn up the volume to hear the voice that knows the TRUTH about who you are and how you add value to the world.

Acknowledge yourself for at least 5 things each and every day that you did well. Each day, compliment yourself on something you did that you feel good about. Notice your small successes and accept the compliments others give you.

4. Comparing yourself to others.

Problem: Do you constantly compare yourself to others and then feel badly when compared to them? Comparison doesn't motivate us to do more or be better, instead it makes us feel we'll never be good enough and we aren't right now.

Action: Write out the 5 qualities you like best about yourself. Then write out what you value most in your life. When you go to a place of comparison, notice how similar you are with the other person vs. what is different. Begin to create a list of adjectives that describe you - at least 25 positive words about your greatness. Whenever you notice yourself in a comparison mode, think of some of the adjectives that describe YOU.


5. Self-Sabotage – getting what you want and then losing it.

Problem: Do you not believe that you deserve to have what you want? When you get what you want, why do you often lose it or mess it up? What is the true story underneath - maybe that you think aren't good enough to have it?

Action: List all the things you have accomplished that faded away. Simply notice these things, but don’t place any judgment on the fact they disappeared. How did they bring you satisfaction? How did they make you feel? What is the limiting belief that you have that tells you inside why you can't have what you want? Be quiet, be still and listen to it.

Write down how you felt when you had what you wanted. Write down how you feel now, without it. Then write a "bridge belief": A very, very small belief that feels a little bit better than what you now feel. Each week, create a new bridge belief, not matter how small, that you can really believe. By using these bridges as stepping-stones, you'll shift your limiting beliefs slowly and be on the other side of the bridge and able to maintain it because you will have a new belief inside of you.
6. You chase away relationships.

Problem: Do you always feel something is missing in your relationships or find fault with the other person? Perhaps you are afraid of intimacy. Underneath this is usually a fear of abandonment or exposure that causes you to distance yourself from others.

Action: Create a list of the qualities you value in a relationship and the qualities you want to attract in your partners. Express what you want and don't want to the other person and allow them to express the same to you. Create time to acknowledge the other person on a regular basis. Notice when you feel afraid. Don't try to push the feelings away. Know that the feelings are there and that is fine. Then, in that moment, focus on what feels good about the relationship.

7. Having no purpose.

Problem: Do you feel you have no purpose in life? We all have some purpose for being on the planet and it is time to notice yours.

Action: Write down all the things that are important to you – the thing you want to create in your life. Then write out what you want to contribute to the world. From your writing, create a statement of purpose for yourself that you can read each and every day.

Then stop worrying about not knowing your purpose and start creating what you desire now. It doesn’t matter what you want in the future. So start creating something you want in your life NOW. This action will ultimately put you in alignment and bring you closer to your overall purpose.






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