Tuesday, April 29, 2008

How To Eliminate Burnouts

Being human, we are subject to certain limitations. We cannot have all that we want and all that we need. We have weak points physically, emotionally, socially, spiritually and mentally. When we are on the verge of our limits we tend to feel burnouts. It's the feeling of being stressed out at the same time empty. You feel that your mind’s overworked and your body’s lousy.

If you feel it every now and then, let me tell you that it happens to everyone. But not everyone overcomes it. If you’re one of those people who, up to now, are confined by burnouts, well think again, it will not make you productive!

But don't fret. If you happen to be in this situation, press your pause button and read on…

It is not good to have burnouts because you become idle and uncreative. It is different from block, though a creative block might have been caused by burnouts. Even if you rested well or you have active lifestyle, you may still be susceptible to being blocked with fresh ideas. That’s an instance of creative block. Burnout, meanwhile, is being unproductive for a stretched period. Unlike creative block, burnouts are destructive. Your desired remedy is to run away or have a moment alone but is it really the right solution?

You may not be aware that preventing burnouts is easy. Here are some helpful tips. Follow them to keep burnouts away…

Set small breaks. Take your coffee breaks (How 'bout a cup of espresso?). Walk around your abode. Do some stretching or simply stare blankly at something. This will help you prevent fatigue and stress. It can also refresh your mind.

Have a healthy lifestyle. You can’t think and act well when you’re starving, so eat a balanced diet and fill your body with stamina to keep you going. What we eat controls us in a subtle manner. We are taking this for granted that sometimes it’s too late to recover our health – then we regret.

Take care of your body. Do not abuse yourself with diet, sleeplessness and stress. Take a frequent trip to your doctor and take care of yourself nutritionally. Exercise or indulge in sports to keep your body fit and sound.

Be inspired. Watch a movie, listen to inspirational songs, visit a museum, read your favorite book, enjoy a stage play, a gig, or a concert, learn a new hobby, enjoy other people’s company. Think of your family, your friends and loved ones - they are your inspiration. Having an inspiration gives you the cool edge to do the right thing.

Take a vacation. Have a break dude! Go to the beach. Hang out in a cozy bar. Hike. Pamper yourself in a spa or beauty salon. Visit a historical site. Have fun with nature. By this you can recharge your creative side to widen your thoughts even more. Experiences make us stronger and wiser so welcome every experience in your life.

Learn to meditate. Everyday, you need a little time alone to contemplate on your life – what you want, what you need and how to get it… You have to reflect on your experiences, your mistakes, your goals in life. Sometimes a silence to soothe your mind is indispensable. Try yoga and other stuff to appease you. You can also light an aromatic candle to relax your senses while meditating.

Shun denials. Admit your stresses and pressures which have become obvious physically, mentally or emotionally. Physical pain forces can lead you into callousness.

Avoid Isolation. Develop new friendships. Renew intimacies with friends and loved ones. Intimacy not only brightens your perspectives in life, it can also be anathema to depression and anxiety. Being alone, at some rate, molds your independence. However, it is in socialization that molds your personality as part of the dynamic society.

If necessary, alter your circumstances. If something or somebody is pulling you down, change the circumstance. You may leave or stand by your right. It’s not healthy to keep a grudge against a person - say it, resolve it.

Lessen your intensity. Pinpoint your most concentrated intensity and try to assuage the pressure. If you are relaxed, you can do productive things more than a constrained individual. Try something new. Open your horizon to lots of things. You may discover something different that can unburden you. You may be tired of the routinely work.

Learn to say ‘No’. You can refuse additional tasks, demands or commitments. You’re not a super dynamo as they think you are. You cannot do all things at the same time. It is not a weakness to admit your limits. It’s a manifestation that you know how to organize and manage your time and effort. Saying no politely is the best remedy to this.

Rescue yourself. Sometimes you have to delegate, back off and detach, this way you will not be pressured and distressed. Try to get some help. If the loads are too heavy then ask for help. You can outsource if you need to.

Reassess your ideals. Do you still have those meaningful and idealistic values you once had? Do you know how to discard non-essentials from essentials? Are you now well-rounded than before or has remained self-centered? Do you still know your priorities? Ask these questions to yourself, the answer might save you from getting astray.

Pace yourself. Learn to take life in moderation. Use your energy in a productive way. Ascertain what you want to achieve but try to balance it with love, pleasure and relaxation.

Diminish your worries. Most of our worries are hardly to take place so spend less time worrying. Worrying restricts you - nothing good about it, isn’t it? Better yet, have a good grip and take care of your real needs.

Keep your Sense of Humor. Reminisce your happy moments. Being happy is a shield against burnouts. It gives you a positive outlook in life. It makes you appreciate the goodness in others and in life. Smile more, laugh a lot! It so easy and its contagious. It’s a therapy all for free.






Sunday, April 20, 2008

The BE - DO - HAVE Principle

After graduation, where will I be? What will I be doing?

Right now, I don't have the minutest details. What I'm sure is that I'm not taking the Bar this year and will be working until December. The rest, I don't know yet.

To help me decide, I remembered the BE - DO - HAVE principle. The principle guides people to achieve their goals. I hope this one counts. And I hope I'll take the principle seriously. So here's how it works...

BE. It is where you outline, define and refine your life purpose.

DO. It is where you make realizations.

HAVE. It is the result of your life purpose.

By BEing of service and DOing the things that are essential to obtain life purpose you HAVE the things that you want. It is the BEing and DOing that results in the HAVing.

Thursday, April 17, 2008

Love Is Or It Ain't

Sometimes we are confused by life. And sometimes keeping our fingers crossed is not a good idea. There’s no easy formula.. really.

Maybe one of the most confusing of all confusions is knowing the right person for you. Indeed, having him/her beside you at the right time is no easy way.

Sometimes, you love but that person won’t love you back. Sometimes it’s the other way around. What makes it more mixed up is when you are already loved by the person you love and you’re starting to love the one who loves you. So twisted… There are also times when love is wanting…when you mistake love for something like infatuation…

Sometimes we search too far only to find out that the right person is just few steps away (can be your bestfriend, enemy, neighbor, or a friend of a friend).

Sometimes we are tricked by life. Sometimes we are tricked by ourselves...of our greed...of our fear to love...

I've read a counseling book penned by a renowned psychologist (unfortunately, I can’t recall his name at this very moment). One short story revolved around a 56-year-old man. He was divorced twice and was separated thrice. The first few years of his first marriage were ecstatic….Then came his daughter.

He felt that the child has entirely captured his wife’s affection…because of this, the marriage was on the rocks for the next years. So the man find ways to divorce his wife. He left his first wife to marry a younger one. Their relationship went on for about four years. Then, he again filed a divorce. The third marriage came too soon and ended too quickly. It took him about 8 long years to realize that he has already found the one true love he has been looking for in the person of his first wife unfortunately, he had let it slipped away. No way can he put the pieces back because his former spouse was already dead.

Sometimes holding on is the answer. Sometimes letting go…

In the movie Serendipity, the couple reunite years after the night they first met, fell in love, and separated, convinced that one day they'd end up together. They have let destiny bring them as one guided by the constellation Cassiopeia.
In Notting Hill, the essence is sacrifice and giving up something…You give up fame, power for the sake of love.. It’s the act of being broken that make’s it special. The story was all about the world’s most famous movie star and a simple travel bookstore owner, who has a non-existent love life. For both, something or someone seems to be missing. And when both paths unexpectedly cross, love is the last thing on their mind. The couple comes to face the ultimate question: Can two people fall in love with the whole world watching?

The Perfect Catch is all about a schoolteacher who has been obsessed with the Boston Red Sox for 23 years. Then he fell in love with Drew, a dynamo career woman. But the 2004 baseball season shaked their relationship to the breaking point. Loving really, is also loving his/her ways…I can still remember Drew’s line: “Those things you like, I feel them too – for you!” Sports and work don’t love you back. People do.

Stepford Wives made me understand why there are imperfections. What does it take to become a Stepford wife, a woman perfect beyond belief? Ask the Stepford husbands, who've created a high-tech dreadful little town in modern milieu. They thought it’s the best idea. But were they accurate? Being perfect is downright BORING.

This world is not a product of make-believe but reality. It’s not a movie where we can have a number of cuts to perfect the scene. It’s not a film where we can delete the mediocre takes and pause when we want to linger on a scene…

We can only have flashback and flashforward in our mind. Albeit, we can all relate.







Saturday, April 12, 2008

A Red Date To March...

No don't get me wrong. I'm not gonna marry today. I'm marching on a red carpet for my graduation...

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Let's Have Fun

All work and no play makes you a dull person. So let's have fun. Russel Peters is here to share some laughing gas.

Beat Your Kids by Russel Peters


Somebody gonna get a hurt real bad. (laughs)

I can't find his comedy stint about his Jamaican friend. That's his funniest so far.


Click here for more.







Saturday, April 5, 2008

I Need Your Words

Speak up. I need your words.

Everything is clear. Oh yeah, so clear. Very clear that it's vague.

We're supposed to talk. We're supposed to feel. But what are we doing? We're trying to make a mess out of nowhere. We're trying to find the right words. But those words are just kept in the unfathomable abyss of our mind. Useless words. They failed to serve their purpose.

C'mon, say what you wanna say and I'll deliver my piece as well. I'm sure both of us have something to say. We just don't open ourselves to opportunities. We'd rather sulk in one corner and be miserable deep inside. They don't have a clue. But we do. Sad thing, we're masochistic enough to choose pain and despair.

Okay, okay, I spoilt it the first time. But could you please blurt it out again to make me understand. I won't be nasty anymore. Promise. In fact, I did not want 'that thing' to happen. But before I knew it, everything was blown out of proportion. My bad. Sorry for that.

You know, it's hard to fake things, to tell yourself everything's okay when it's not. To tell yourself there's nothing wrong when you feel animosity. Come to think of it, we should've been happy. But we refuse to be by entertaining our pride, our bloated ego.

Could we just find a way to patch things up? Or just let silence tear us apart.


Say It

I asked what it is,
You didn't say a word.
C'mon, take a stand,
Get a chance to speak.

How much longer will it take you to make up your mind?
If you've got something to say, lemme hear it.
I'll listen to your words,
I'll hear your sighs.

Make yourself heard,
Tell me what you think.
Don't you hold back the words,
Just say it.


~\\-cOn-//~

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Ang Aking Awitin

Songs that touches our soft spot - the heart. Those are the songs that I like the most especially when I'm in the mood to feel the melody and etch the lyrics in my heart. One song reminds me of a special person. And today is his birthday.

Ang Aking Awitin by Side A

Thank you for this song. Happy happy birthday to you. God bless you always.






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